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How you see yourself, will shape your world.

Self image is the internal idea you have of yourself.

Such as who you are, what you are capable of, what is possible for you, etc.

When your self image is aligned with your goals, awesome.

But what happens when it isn’t?

What happens when how you see yourself is not in agreement with who you aspire to be in life?

Here are a few examples:

You want to be promoted in your career, you put in the work and finally get promoted. And then… something weird happens. You get this awkward feeling that you don’t belong at the big table, you find yourself hiding, doubting yourself and inevitably your career suffers.

You want to lose weight and be that stylish woman who wears (insert your dream kind of outfit) but you find yourself starting a new diet every week and never seem to make progress. Inside, you feel nothing like that woman, you feel like a frumpy, frustrated woman who can’t be disciplined and you end up disliking yourself even more. As a result, you keep thinking that perhaps, it’s just not possible for you to change.

Your business is growing, doing well. You know how much work you've put into it, how much sacrifice went into it and now that you’ve been able to quit your job… you find yourself hiding, not doing what you’re supposed to be doing, not promoting, you don’t show up consistently and revenue suffers.. And you end up stuck, feeling like a perpetual failure who will never make it big.

You walk by a designer shop and you peek inside but somehow you can't make yourself walk inside, somehow you feel like you don’t belong there, even though you fantasize about shopping in places like that.

You want to be treated well by your partner but somehow you end up with poor quality men who treat you badly and you have no idea why.

You keep thinking things like:

I’m not good enough.

I’m lazy.

I procrastinate so much.

It’s not possible for someone like me.

I’m not disciplined enough.

I’m a failure.

I’m not like her.

I’m too old/ too young/ too fat/ too (insert your own) to…

The stories you tell yourself, about yourself, will create your life.

Those are just a few examples but there are thousands more.

So what’s going on here?

Well, it’s very simple once you understand human psychology. What is happening is that your current identity (who you believe you are on the inside) is not aligned with who you aspire to be.

Until you change how you see yourself, you will remain stuck in this cycle of never really making real progress because this is how the brain works. Whatever the pattern (what you keep thinking about) runs in the brain, the brain must find evidence for in real life. This is called confirmation bias and you cannot outrun it. Your brain will always look for ways to confirm what you believe to be true about yourself, makes sense?

The stories you tell yourself, about yourself, will create your life

This is where self sabotage comes from.

This is why over 70% of people who win the lottery, sooner or later, end up broke again. Getting money doesn’t make you rich. Having a mentality of a rich person is what makes you rich. It is the reason behind so many successful people going through a crisis only to bounce back so much stronger and richer. This is how powerful self image is.

Hi, my name is Alex and I understand very well how this feels because I once was you.

I came to the UK (I was born and grew up in Poland) with no skills, no language, no connections and no confidence. I used to wash up glasses in bars for 12 hours a day just to pay for rent.

I wanted more out of life but never felt good enough, always had a big chip on my shoulder because of my background and lack of self belief. My self image was one of a “poor immigrant” rather than the successful woman I wanted to be.

It really held me back as I kept sabotaging myself so I started learning about psychology and slowly, very slowly I turned things around.

From the girl who used to wash up glasses for minimum wage, I grew into a woman who had a great career in the banking sector.

After a few years of enjoying the good life, I decided that my passion was not managing banks but helping people grow. I quit at the height of my career, took a massive pay cut and started slowly transitioning into the world of business.

Fast forward a few years and here I am, working with women all around the world. And the more women I worked with, the clearer I could see how the way they see themselves is the thing that holds them back from reaching their next level in life.

I specialise in helping women just like you shift their identity, change how they see themselves so they can finally be who they want to be, in every area of their lives.

If you would like to talk about how my coaching can help you, please schedule a call here.